Dealing with housekeeping frustrations? You know … a bunch of stress from having to do the same tasks over and over? You’re not alone. Here’s some help.
Reader question: Could you please suggest a functional way to approach the stress and feelings of worthlessness when all your work is destroyed daily knowing tomorrow you’ll have to do it all over again? Thanks!
Oh, the frustrations that come with housekeeping. There’s nothing like getting everything caught up in your house … and then watching it get destroyed bit by bit the very next day.
Virtually every single housekeeping task has the potential to get ruined right away. Think about laundry. Once you get caught up, the clothes you’re wearing will need to be washed. And dishes. As soon as you cook a meal, dirty dishes will start to pile up.
This vicious and true cycle is enough to zap any joy right out of your homemaking.
What’s a homemaker to do?
Too much is too much
When I get caught up in stressing out over my housekeeping and homemaking, it’s usually a great indicator that I’m trying to do too much in my life.
I’ve noticed my home is an amazing thermometer for the busyness of life. When I’m trying to do too much and spread myself too thin, my home turns disastrous in a hurry.
A family affair
But even when I’m not busy, my mess-making family has an amazing way of turning my nice and neat home into a whirlwind of stuff. And their knack of destroying my hard work has a tendency to create a lot of stress.
To try to prevent a lot of family strife – and to prevent myself from becoming a nitpicking momma – I’m trying to create family clean-up times, so we’re all working together.
- My children and I clean up all of our morning mess in a mid-afternoon quick clean-up.
- And after dinner, my family does another quick cleaning of our home before bedtime.
I don’t expect a spic and span home, but I do expect my family to help clean up. Especially since they’re old enough, and especially since they’re helping make the mess.
A change in perspective
Aside from an indication of busyness and a family issue, I’ve found that my frustrations in housekeeping all boil down to my perspective.
When I keep my eyes focused on myself – my own comfort, my own ease, my own convenience – I am quick to get offended, frustrated, and stressed.
When I take my eyes off myself, though, and focus on God’s job for me as a homemaker – to glorify Him and to care for the people and possessions He’s blessed me with – I find peace in my chores.
I stop complaining to myself and find myself wanting to care for my home and family. Even when it means repeating the same tasks over and over again. I welcome the chance to wash the dirty laundry or dishes as an opportunity to minister to my family and love them in a very practical way.
As with everything in my life, I’ve found it improves when I’m walking closely with the Lord. I’m able to find joy and peace in situations that would normally frustrate me and cause a lot of stress. Since it makes such a huge difference, it’s by far my best approach to homemaking, housekeeping … and life.
You can find out more about how I prioritize my relationship with the Lord, my family, and my home – as well as how I balance housekeeping in with everyday life – in my session during the Balance in Homemaking Online Conference. For conference details, click here.
How do you deal with housekeeping frustrations?
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