If you think you’re always right, you’ll need to question this at some point. And if you’re you’re married, you need to regularly think about who is right in your marriage.
Have you noticed that it always seems like you’re right?
No matter what the situation, it can be hard to see another perspective – because your perspective seems so obvious. And right.
Certainly anyone who doesn’t agree with you must be wrong.
(One look at the current unrest and culture of disagreement and disunity in America proves that most people think they’re right – and anyone else is wrong. If you doubt me, just look at comments on Facebook.)
Right and wrong in marriage
When you’re married, this assumption that you’re always right can crop up a lot. When your spouse doesn’t automatically agree with you – or when your husband offers his different opinion – it can seem downright wrong to you.
Here’s the thing, though: You and your husband may think differently. You may do things differently. And you may be tempted to think that your way is right – and your husband’s way is wrong. But that’s simply not true.
For most annoyances that you’re experiencing in your marriage, you’re probably just experiencing a difference of opinions.
As an example from my own marriage, I tend to think this a lot with most cleaning projects. Because I wash dishes and laundry a certain way, sometimes I think it’s the only way. When my husband cleans a different way, I’m tempted to think it’s not right. But everything still gets cleaned. (In some ways, his way ends up being better because he’s doing the work … and I’m not the one cleaning!)
His way is effective – it’s just different than my way. But it doesn’t make his way wrong – or right. And it doesn’t make my way wrong – or right.
Realizing that different is OK has helped me relax – and now when my husband helps out around the house, I’m thankful he’s doing the work. My thankfulness is a lot better than getting annoyed by a trivial difference.
When peace is a better priority
Differences crop up all the time in marriage, because you’re two different people who have two very different histories and experiences. Everything in life – from the way you celebrate holidays to the way you park your car to the way you fry an egg to the way you were raised – is unique to you.
Instead of expecting everything to be done your way, appreciate the difference. Maybe you’ll find a better way to do something – and maybe, you’ll end up sticking with your habit. Either way is OK.
But if you have a tendency to stay stuck in your ways, it can be better to back down from your preference and learn to choose your battles wisely.
Some things just aren’t worth ending up in disagreement or stress. Decide now that you’ll seek peace and pursue it, because your marriage is worth much more than your stubborn preferences.
If you’ve discovered that your marriage is much more than your stubborn preferences, what do you do when you and your husband have a difference of opinions? How often do you consider who is right in your marriage?
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