Life can be messy.
Between dealing with the busy demands of everyday life and hearing about current events that threaten to overwhelm, it’s normal to wonder if you can experience peace in the middle of so much imperfection.
If you only try harder or hustle a little bit more, you might finally juggle everything in life:
- Maybe your house will be perfect.
- Or your marriage.
- Or your relationship with your kids.
- Or your job.
- Or your walk with Christ.
The thing is, it’s not like you need to do more. You don’t even need to work harder to check off all the tasks on your ultimate to-do list.
In fact, when you let go of trying so hard to navigate this imperfect life on your own and choose to trust the Lord, you will begin to experience His perfect peace.
You’ll encounter joy and contentment that you could never find on your own.
Imagine…
- Imagine smiling as you crawl into bed at night as you realize you’ve spent moments in your day loving your family well and pointing them to Christ. And you spent time worshiping Him in the midst of life. You might feel worn out after a flurry of activity, and you might not have gotten nearly as much done around your home as you hoped, but it’s OK. Productivity doesn’t matter as much as the people you nurtured.
- Imagine feeling comfortable enough in your home to embrace the imperfections and focus on the eternal. With the Lord’s help, you’ve created a clean(ish) haven that nurtures and recharges you and your family.
- Imagine feeling motivated to care for your family and home as a way to glorify God, no matter what season of life you’re facing.
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Hi there! I’m Hilary Bernstein.
As a wife and homeschooling mom, I know what it’s like to regularly feel like you’re drowning in all that needs to be done.
It’s hard to try to juggle a family and home and work, let alone other relationships and responsibilities.
When you feel like you’re just surviving most days, it can be easy to forget the most important big picture:
- How can I focus on the Lord in the middle of a busy life?
- Why should I care for my family and home?
- How can I glorify God with the everyday things I do?
- What does any of this busy work mean to the Lord?
- How can I draw closer to God when I feel so overwhelmed?
Without a proper perspective, tending to your family and home day after day can feel like a draining sacrifice.
When my children were young, it was really easy to let exhaustion set in, especially when I watched the littlest members of my family destroy our semi-clean home right before my very eyes. Day after day, when I felt overwhelmed by so much work, it was really easy to focus on all of my tasks while losing sight of what really mattered.
Why should I care for my home and family day after day? And most importantly, how could my care for them reflect my love and respect for the Lord?
Even though my family and home responsibilities never changed, I began to actually forget about the overwhelm. I turned my attention to the Lord and cared for His blessings as a way to thank Him.
By listening to wisdom shared by wise, godly mentors, I realized that any hectic season of life will consume me for only a few years until life changes again. With this in mind, I stopped complaining to myself and started thanking the Lord for my family and home and all the work that comes along with those precious gifts.
By remembering that God has placed me in my home with my family at this exact moment in time for a reason, I’m encouraged to experience peace right where I am. He compels me to love well, even and especially in the messiness of life.
Today, the workload around my home hasn’t disappeared. (In fact, it’s only multiplied.) But instead of stressing out over an overflowing to-do list, I choose to work around my home to glorify God and demonstrate His love to those around me.
I’m reminded to put people over things, and relationships, including my relationship with Him, over tasks.
As I do that, He not only surprises me with peace and purpose, but He also multiplies my time, energy, and love for others.
How can I help you?
Just like the Lord has worked in my heart and home, I know He can transform you and your home, too.
Through my weekly emails, books, and blog posts, I love helping Christian women realize the significance of even the simplest of tasks and then offering workable solutions to make everyday life at home a little easier.
You can find some inspiration and guidance in these popular blog posts:
- Finding Something Sacred in the Middle of the Mundane
- The Calling to Care for Your Home
- How to Use Your Haven to Change the World
- Filling Your Home with Lovely Things
- Why Havens are Important (and How You Can Get One)
If and when you ever meet me in real life, you’ll quickly find out I like listening to other people and figuring out ways I can help in a Titus 2 sort of way. But since you’re meeting me online at the moment, know that I’m happy to offer advice when it comes to:
Where you can find Hilary’s writing…
I’ve enjoyed reading books and writing since I was in kindergarten, so I majored in journalism in college. When I graduated, I worked as a magazine writer and newspaper editor for a decade before becoming a blogger.
I’ve been blogging since 2011, and over the past five years I’ve also been thrilled to write fifteen books for women, teens, and girls with Kregel Publishing, Christian Art Gifts, and Barbour Publishing. I’m honored to be represented by Barbara Roose with Books & Such Literary Management:
I still appreciate blogging, and especially adore my email subscribers. When you sign up for my subscriber community, I’ll email you quick, encouraging messages once a week that will help you transform your home into a haven of peace and purpose.
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