As I try to manage my home in the middle of life’s busyness, I’ve found the only way I can stay on track is with the help of a to-do list.
I’m a list maker. And as I try to manage my home in the middle of life’s busyness, I’ve found the only way I can stay on track is with the help of to-do lists.
I need to write down my chores and commitments – or I’ll forget about them.
I’ve tried to go through my days without a list, but I forget what I need to do. Even when I have a good routine in place and a workable housekeeping strategy, If something as basic as laundry isn’t written down, I’ll unintentionally skip it.
Instead of being frustrated with my forgetfulness, I try to give myself grace. I realize I’m busy. I realize everyday life – and parenting! – distracts me from basic chores. So I compensate for my reality with lists.
When do I make a list?
On weekends, I try to map out my coming week with daily to-do lists:
- I check my calendar for meetings, appointments and other commitments. I add them to my daily lists.
- Then I think about what I need to do in the week. I add it to my daily lists.
- Then I think about what I’d like to try to fit in – and add it.
Every night, I look at my list for the next day. Sometimes it needs completely changed. Sometimes I need to add things I didn’t finish. And sometimes, it looks just fine.
How I structure my lists
Depending on my day, my list may be fairly unstructured – I think of a basic order of when I should do things, and write them down.
For example, a typical day’s basic to-do list looks like:
- Time with God
- Write blog post
- Dishes and laundry
- School
- Grocery list
But on a really, really busy day – if I’m preparing for company, planning a deep cleaning day, trying to purge to create more of a haven, or preparing for vacation, I’ll break up my day’s chores into morning afternoon and evening chores like this:
Morning
- Time with God
- Call doctor
- Dishes
- Laundry
- Clean bathroom
- Clean fridge
Afternoon
- Weed garden
- Hold mail
- Pay bills
Evening
- Text co-op teachers
- Schedule social media
- Respond to e-mails
- Finish laundry
Over the years, I’ve noticed that some days, my plans are much more ambitious than they should be – and I’d need about 40 hours in a day to get everything done. Unless I’m miraculously having a Superwoman kind of day and somehow manage to fit everything in, I need to try to do my tasks on a different day. It’s OK.
The point of a to-do list is to serve as a reminder of what I should try to do … it’s not a rigid checklist – just a helpful reminder. If I don’t accomplish everything in a day, I can move my goals to another day later in the week.
But when I do complete a task, crossing it off feels like a huge accomplishment. And on some days, that’s enough to give me a little pep and encouragement to keep going.
How often do you use a to-do list? Are you overly ambitious with your lists … or fairly realistic?
I should go back to my regular to do lists…
I have random running lists for things that are not urgent or bound to a specific day or time… So i can check if i get an unplanned free time slot what useful i can do instead of wasting the time online… (My current lists are ideas for sewing, and homeschool ideas for the future that need prep)
When i used to do daily lists i had a layout with 3 stars (top priorities), meal plan, drink water reminder, other to-do, and a memory box (to write anything down at the end of the day)
What i loved about this was that the 3 top priorities were clear, and other stuff was remembered too but not muddled with the priorities… Some days the priority was ‘hold the baby’ along with ‘get all the kids showered :)’ usually if an item stayed to long on the regular to do list i’d put it as a priority to get it done…
I love breaking my list down by morning/afternoon/evening too! And YES – I totally relate to having extremely ambitious lists. One thing I have learned is to try to limit my lists to 2-3 items per time slot. I can always do more if I have time but limiting it helps me focus. Good post!
Such a good point to limit your lists to a couple jobs per time slot!