Feel like a homemaking failure? It’s OK … it’s not too late to start making changes one small step at a time.
When it comes to homemaking, have you ever felt like a failure?
I have … more often than I’d care to admit.
With a Type B personality, I lack the stick-to-itiveness as a Type A homemaker.
- I don’t have everything in my house perfectly organized.
- My laundry doesn’t run right on schedule.
- In fact, I don’t even follow a schedule. (Gasp!)
I hear plenty of wives and moms talk about routines and systems to help their homemaking happen like clockwork, and I feel so inadequate.
- Yet my house is presentable every day.
- I feed my family healthy, fresh food.
- I keep our dishes and laundry clean.
But I just can’t commit to a routine. I feel trapped when I think about systems.
When I do try to manage my day with a schedule, on paper it looks so promising! I just might be able to fit everything in, and keep my home running like a well-oiled machine.
But after one or two days of trying the schedule, it all falls apart.
Life happens, my chores take longer than I plan, and I end up feeling like a failure. Again. I know I’m not a failure, but it can still feel like it.
Your need for a unique strategy
If you’re in a similar situation, feeling like it’s impossible to get everything together, take a deep breath. It’s OK.
You may go about your homemaking a little different than organized women, but really … it’s OK! There is hope for the Type B homemakers of the world.
I’m a HUGE believer that every home and homemaker is unique.
Because of that, all of the homemaking systems and routines you’ll find online won’t work in your home. Oh, sure, they may include lots of good ideas. But if you’re judging your homemaking success based on them, please stop.
It’s time to create your very own strategy for your very own Type B personality and your very own home.
In defense of a life without a home management binder, I don’t ever remember hearing about a home management binder or system until 10 years ago. Growing up, the homemakers in my life never had them. My born-organized mother never did. None of my mom’s stay-at-home mom friends did. Neither of my grandmothers did. These women just knew how to care for their homes, as it had been modeled to them growing up. They didn’t need to read what to do next, because homemaking had become a habit. Just like them, homemaking can become a habit for us.
Part of creating your own strategy involves making small changes. Small changes, while they may seem insignificant at first, can build up to make a big difference.
So becoming organized? And decluttering? Or taking control of your home? I believe it’s all absolutely possible one small change at a time.
When you want – and need – to change and embrace some kind of order, it’s time to find daily duties that work for you and then turn them into habits.
Start by picking just three or four chores you know you must do every single day. Focus on completing these Non-Negotiable Daily Chores before you consider moving on to other projects in your home.
Then once those chore become a natural part of your day (and they will!) add in other jobs that need done.
To prioritize those jobs, pinpoint exactly what’s out of control, track down possible solutions, and get plans in place.
Then simply work your plans.
Once your home is under control, you can eventually figure out a time to do brief deep cleaning chores throughout your year. But don’t sweat that right now:
- Simply know you want and need to change.
- Know what you’d like to start changing and working on.
- Then get to work and start making those changes today!
When you focus on those three steps, you’ll start to make a difference in your home – and all of those feelings of failure will disappear!
Are you with me? Do you ever feel like a homemaking failure? Are you willing to try to make small changes?
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