Starting homemaking from scratch can seem intimidating and overwhelming. These tips can help beginners start homemaking!
Reader question: I’m about to get married, so I’d love helpful tips on how to get into a rhythm with ALL that is entailed in running a home.
While my soon-to-be husband is very willing to help and takes initiative, I feel a desire to take charge of things like dishes, laundry and cleaning as my responsibility (80-20 distribution is most likely what it will be). If only one thing was added to my plate at a time, it would be easier, but the load of it all coming at once is daunting to me.
Whether you’re getting married or moving into your very own home for the first time, figuring out homemaking and attempting to create a haven definitely can seem daunting. And knowing how to start homemaking can seem overwhelming, for sure.
What do you do?
When should you do it?
And how often should you do it?
The answers to these questions are different for every single homemaker, since they all depend on your preferences. (That’s one thing that makes homemaking – and each home – so unique!)
But there’s a definite process that can help you settle into a homemaking routine and style that’s just right for you.
First of all, before you start anything, please give yourself grace. Know that you’ll be in the process of figuring out what’s best for you. Know that you’ll do some things really well and some things terribly. Don’t worry about trying to do everything perfectly right away (if ever) – because it won’t happen.
You’ll make mistakes. You’ll find success. And in the process you’ll find out that even if certain approaches “work,” they may not be best for you and your personality or preferences.
Knowing your chores
After you’ve reminded yourself to relax and give yourself grace, figure out what chores you need to do around your home.
Typically, these chores will involve:
- Food (meal planning and preparation),
- Maintaining your home (garbage, recycling, repairs, etc.) and
- Maintaining your life (bills, paperwork, etc.)
Since I’m a huge fan of making lists, I suggest writing down these chores so you can see them all. Then, think about how often you need to do them.
Some of your chores will need to be done a few times a day, once a day, once a week, once a month, or once a year. Oftentimes, this depends on who lives in your home. If it’s just you – or just you and your husband – you’ll need to do laundry a lot less frequently than if you have several children.
Once you decide how often you need to do each chore, then look at your schedule to see when you can fit everything in.
Some chores – like washing dishes – fit into a natural rhythm of your day. (Set aside time for doing them after each meal.) Other chores just don’t seem to fit. So plan on a specific time to do them.
Finding what works
Once you know what you need to do and when you want to do it, then get to work!
The key in the actual doing, though, is figuring out what works for you – and what doesn’t.
- Is a particular chore just not getting done? Figure out a different time to do it.
- Have you thought of a different kind of cleaning chore you should add to your routine to make it easier? Add it.
- Are you cleaning in a particular way that just seems laborious? Switch it up. Look for different ways of cleaning your home and different products to make your cleaning easier.
The key is being flexible. Try to do your housekeeping and get into a rhythm, and pay attention if you need to tweak it. I’ve found that just because one way of caring for my home works in one season, it doesn’t always work. Just as life changes, so does my homemaking.
Your homemaking hopefully will improve over time as you become more comfortable with it. You’ll experience seasons of being on top of everything, and being completely overwhelmed. Don’t stress about it! Remind yourself that it’s a process, celebrate your successes, and enjoy maintaining your haven.
Experienced homemakers, how do you think a young homemaker should start homemaking? What worked for you? What didn’t?
Learning from other homemakers
If you’d like more advice from homemakers who have spent years caring for their homes and families, I highly (highly!) recommend Homemaking Ministries’ Online Conference, Balance in Homemaking.
You can learn from 17 Titus 2 homemakers … and connect with other homemakers facing the same issues in an online Facebook group.
I’ve participated in two other Homemaking Ministries conferences, but I’m most excited about the Balance in Homemaking topic, and all of the speakers who will challenge and encourage me. I would love for you to join me! (For details, click here.)
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