is an author and
women’s ministry leader who helps women navigate life’s imperfections with God’s perfect peace.

Hilary Bernstein

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Hilary Bernstein’s latest book, The Tension of Tidy, will help you break free from the burden you were never meant to bear.

Instead of encouraging the chase after elusive perfection, The Tension of Tidy invites you to pause and reflect on the Psalms, allowing God to reshape your outlook on homemaking and say goodbye to the constant pressure of keeping up with ever-changing trends and expectations. With these Scriptures, you’ll discover that life can find a beautiful balance between productivity and rest, all fueled by God’s unwavering grace.

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“ From the moment I started reading ‘The Tension of Tidy,’ it was truly as if Hillary shared my secret thoughts, and the comfort through the truths of God to which she very skillfully and compassionately offered, had me crying before I even finished the first chapter. This book has given me a new perspective on the origins of home-life, and a refreshing outlook on the joy God has for us both now and in the future. Though I wish I had these principles to help me early in my life, I am so thankful for their gift now.”
~ Karen
“If you’re a woman who is spinning her wheels trying to manage a household and keep a routine and maintain a clean and comfy home who still feels like she’s falling short despite her best efforts, this book is for you. ‘The Tension of Tidy’ isn’t an instruction manual for how to have a perfectly kept home – you won’t find to-do list templates or cleaning schedules within its pages. Instead, Hilary weaves together scripture, personal anecdotes, wisdom, and encouragement to show that God’s plan for us doesn’t involve the pressure of perfection.”
~ Kristy
“ If you are feeling discouraged or stressed with the everyday tensions in your home and circumstances, I highly recommend reading ‘“’The Tension of Tidy.’ It will definitely help lead you toward the life of inner peace and rest that God wants you to experience.”
Linda
“Hilary shares her heart in such a tender and compassionate way, reframing deep-seated ideas like perfection and accomplishment by redirecting and refocusing on the One who perfectly accomplished the will of God.”
~ Ana-Joel
“Being an empty nester, I have no reason to be upset about my home and its tidiness. Right? Wrong!! Hilary points out many sources of tension (other than kids at home) and gives practical and biblically-based advice for dealing with that tension. And you just might fall in love with Jesus all over again as you read! A must read for women of all ages!”
Kris
“This was the book I didn’t know I needed! Hilary brought to life everyday, practical tips and helpful ideas for not just the home but for life in general. She beautifully tied in the Psalms for an extra level of depth.”
Michele
“‘The Tension of Tidy’ ministers like an encouraging conversation with a close friend. Hilary goes much deeper than practical help. She lovingly leads the reader to the well that will nourish the soul and bring true peace and satisfaction no matter what tension surrounds them.”
Rebecca
“‘The Tension of Tidy’ is a must-read for any woman who feels the tight rope walk of caring for self, family, work, and home. From the very beginning Hilary pulls us in with so much that we can identify with as women caring for our homes. On each page, I feel like I am talking to a good friend as she so gently reminds us of God’s grace and encourages us to rest in Him and release the pressures of perfection. This book will be one I return to over and over.”
Katrina
“‘The Tension of Tidy’ inspired me to intentionally bring God into my everyday life—even in the mundane. It’s a book that both challenges and uplifts, and I highly recommend it to anyone looking for something that will leave them feeling encouraged and inspired.”
Keitha

As an author, Hilary Bernstein has written books for women, teens, and girls. You can find her books at:

Who is Hilary Bernstein?

Believer & follower of Christ.
Wife & mom.
Author of 15 books.
Women’s ministry director.
Encourager & equipper of women.
Extroverted introvert.
Planner, traveler, foodie, & frequent hostess.

More about Hilary

Every Christian woman
can experience God’s perfect peace.
Even in the middle of imperfection.

Especially in our lives, homes, and relationships.

Our everyday lives are busy.
Our homes are messy.
Our relationships are complicated.
But it’s possible to experience God’s perfect peace even in the middle of all our imperfections!


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Yes! I want peace!

 

As you navigate the messy imperfection of life,
God can fill you with His perfect peace.

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“It is so nice to read about homemaking from a Christian point of view! Your blog is SO needed and is the best attitude corrector I have seen! Thank you for making a blog for real people with real homes.”
~ Kerry
I just wanted to take the time to tell you how much I relate to every post and find conviction in many things you write. My home is becoming more of a haven for my family because of your practical advice and suggestions. All I can say is thank you.
~ Stacy
“I absolutely love this and so appreciate this blog! This is SO PRACTICAL and SO HELPFUL! Thank you for the insight and giving me motivation toward a different perspective allowing me to feel less overwhelmed.”
~ Shannon