In marriage, it’s thoughtful to consider what your husband likes. Here’s an embarrassingly easy way to discover what your husband likes.
Have you ever wondered what your husband would like? Maybe you’d like to try to help make his day a little easier. Or maybe you’d like to surprise him with his favorite meal, but aren’t sure what it is.
Instead of guessing, here’s an embarrassingly easy way to discover what your husband likes:
So often, in the busyness of life, it can be easy to get in a rut and simply forget about doing little things that could make your husband’s life better. And so often, our sweet husbands don’t verbalize what they would prefer.
Your husband has an opinion, though. And since he is the other half of your marriage relationship, caring about his opinion is naturally a loving thing to do.
As English novelist and poet George Eliot wrote, “What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?”
Living it out
While I knew this simple trick, I still thought I knew my husband so well that I didn’t need to ask him. It wasn’t until a date night several months ago, when we sat across from each other at a quiet restaurant, that I asked him what he would LOVE to see when he came home from work each day.
It ended up that my suspicions had been right – seeing a picked up home was the one thing that could help him come home and relax. It didn’t matter if supper hadn’t been planned or we needed to go a dozen different places that night or the kids’ rooms towered with messes … a picked up kitchen and living room is an easy, practical way for me to show him that I love him.
Taking the initiative
The surprising thing was that it took just a moment to ask my husband what would make his day better – and he knew right away, without any hesitation. Yet he had never asked me to straighten up the house before. And I doubt he ever would have asked.
Since that conversation, I’ve asked my husband plenty of questions – how he’d prefer to spend a weekend, what his favorite food is, what outfits he likes to see me wear, what he would like to do on a date night. Sometimes he has definite answers, and sometimes he admits that anything is fine.
As I ask him, though, I show him that I care about his opinion – because I do care.
By taking the initiative to find out what your husband would prefer, you can bring him happiness since he knows his opinion matters to you and that you care about him. And, if your husband is anything like mine, once you ask him what he prefers, he’ll start asking you, too.
By simply asking each other – and then sharing what you’d truly like or need – you can make marriage and life better for each other.
After watching what has worked – and what hasn’t – in my grandparents’55-year marriage, my parents’44-year marriage, and my own 14-year marriage (along with countless other marriages of friends and family members), I’m happy to share what I’ve learned through The Faithful Wife, in the hope of helping other marriages.
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What are some ways you have discovered what your husband likes?
Disclaimer: I am a trained journalist, not a trained counselor. If you have marital concerns, please seek professional advice.
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